I’d like to make a comment on something that I feel is long overdue. I’m going to say something positive about our African-American men. Including my own father who had a profound effect on the outcome of my life before passing away. There are countless other black men who also strive today, even under the most challenging circumstances they’re encountering to be good fathers. Some people will argue that such men are too hard to find, or that they do not exist at all, but that is simple not true. Take a look at this video by Sonny May, and tell me that there is no love and affection in the color of black.
People just can’t put every black man in the same boat and then sink the boat with criticism and prejudism. Yes, I’m aware that according to merriam-webster, “prejudism” is not a word – but it is according to me as well as the urban dictionary.
There are some who will try to blame the violence and other social ills of impoverished communities on the absence of black men in their children’s lives. It’s as if though they think single-parented homes are exclusive to African-Americans only. Then they arm themselves with this misconception to undermine and make moral judgments about black women and the men who fathered their child. They paint all black men with one broad dark stroke of failure. Many label us non-supporting deadbeat baby-makers who abandon not only their wife and children, but also their responsibilities even before their child may be born. The sons of these African American fathers are also painted with the same brushstroke of blackness and failure as was their fathers. Although we black beautiful brothers are being condemned and blamed for the turmoil in every community, plainly put, it’s simply is not so.